Introducing Ms Phillydizzi...

Let’s see…where I should start…ok I guess with the obvious. I am a twenty four year old vibrant graduate student. Correction, I used to be vibrant, now I am just tired. I am a full time student and I work part time in a gym. My schedule doesn’t sound that demanding but at times it is. I am fortunate to have a job that allows me to sit and have access to a computer and internet.

Last month, I got engaged to the love of my life. I know that sounds completely cliché but its true! The moment he entered my life, everything fell into place. And I don’t mean life suddenly became easier or whatever. We just started living our lives seamlessly intertwined. I would apologize for the mushy details but since this is a blog about my wedding, it’s practically a prerequisite. We met at a party and I cannot say that we immediately fell in love. One reason being there were a lot of other people at the party and it was hard to sit and just talk. Once we started hanging out, I had a magnetic pull to him that is hard to put into words. I knew he would be an important aspect of my life, I just was not sure in what capacity little did I know that I would be getting ready to marry this guy. Six months passed with us going on our separate paths. He was dating other people and I was in the middle of a fast from men because I was so thoroughly disgusted with the men that were crossing my path and that I was letting cross my path. It’s so easy to place blame on others but I have to take full responsibility to allowing some of these losers into my life. As I was saying, six months later, our paths crossed and voila!
Forward to the present and I guess you could say that I am in the beginning stages of wedding frenzy.

I have an idea of what I want my wedding to look like but I have already encountered people who think they have a real opinion on what will go on. I am not in any sense a Bridezilla. I am introverted and soft-spoken but I have been told that I can be a bitch sometimes. I have been (both as a guest and bridesmaid) to enough weddings to know that it is my and my fiancé’s day and I want every decision we make to reflect that.

It is not my intention to hurt anyone’s feelings at all. I love my friends and family but…I don’t know where I was going with that thought. Some people have expressed to me an interest in walking in my wedding. I have decided who I want to be my bridesmaids. They consist mostly of my sister, some friends and my future sister-in-law. I have decided to leave out cousins just because I do not want to have to choose between sibling cousins. Having bridesmaids are not a necessity. They are a nice addition to a wedding but do I really need ten girls walking before me? This does a few things for me:
1. It prolongs my entrance to walk towards my future-to-be
2. It creates more opinion when it comes to the color and style of the dress
3. It requires more time for me to take out of my day to call slackers who have not bought their dress by the designated time table.

I know what I am talking about; I have been a bridesmaid too many times. In the weddings I have been a part of, I was unable to participate as fully as I wanted due to financial constraints. Obviously I will have people who are important to me and who I know will help and not hinder my big day. I would rather the people that I did not pick, be there for me in other ways. It’s not a diss to anyone; it’s just the way I feel. I’m glad I got that off my chest; I was really worrying about that one. I know someone will get mad, but that’s life. I’m done trying to make everyone happy.

The wedding I envision has about one hundred guests in an outside reception hall. I grew up in a huge church and both of my parents have large extended families. I do not know many of them nor have I talked to many of them in a long time. I do not want some anonymous person at my wedding just because. Weddings cost money and I would rather spend it on people that will actually see the course of my marriage. I’m having a hard time deciding about old classmates and new classmates. I love my new classmates but I want to invite those who I will actually still talk to after we graduate.

I was on the internet and saw advertising for Lynn Lugo in Martha Stewart’s wedding section. She has this online tool where you can customize your bridesmaid dresses. And unlike so many of the other designers I have found, she allows you many color options. My colors are almond and eggplant (well…yesterday it was plum and champagne, I think). Her dresses had both colors provided with coordinating sashes. The problem is her dresses cost around two hundred dollars. I never paid that much for a dress and I don’t want to force anyone else to either. What I like about her site is; it’s easy to have the girls pick dresses they like in the colors I choose. Check out the site: http://www.lynnlugobridal.com/dresses

Oh almost forgot! When I started telling people about my color scheme I got a few eyebrow raises from some unimaginative people. Turns out David’s bridal has an online tool where you can create your dream wedding. I absolutely love it! You can create outfits for everyone in the wedding using dresses from their actual collection. It’s good for seeing different color schemes and to help decide on a color. Just go to http://www.davidsbridal.com/ and register as a member so that you can use it. You can even change hairstyles, facial features, veils, shoes, jewelry…I’m getting excited again.