Pics coming soon

I know I haven't posted pics up yet from the weddding but I haven't forgotten!! I had my graduation from school, we came back from our honeymoon in Miami, and I just started my new job as an Occupational Therapist. Its been crazy busy and on top of that my computer has been acting up...but soon!!! Congrats to BiCoastal Bride on her wedding day!! I hope it was all you dreamed and can't wait to see your pictures as well.

After the fact

Hello all!!!

My wedding on Sat was absolutely crazy but so much fun!! I won't go into extreme details now, I'll wait until after the honeymoon next week. Thank God for my new sister in law who was my day of coordinator at the last minute. Once I stepped foot in the church, I didn't have to worry about anything.

The morning of I was rushing around like a crazy person trying to make sure everything that was necessary was at the church and reception site. I swore up and down that I would not be late to the limo but my bridesmaids made me late...lol...My fiance was also late but we started the ceremony right on time.

The reception was so much fun and it meant so much to see all my relatives and friends and new family there. People were on the dance floor almost to the last second.

I cannot believe that I have been married for five days now, you plan for this day for such a long time and its over before you know it! I still can't believe the countdown is over.

The ironic thing is as soon as I stepped inside the sanctuary I forgot all the little details I was obsessing over. Seriously, don't worry about it.

I will post just a few teaser pics for you guys but stay tuned for after the wedding.

Down to the wire...

Yesterday evening, I went to pick up my wedding dress and it felt so surreal to be there picking up my dress for the last time.

But of course I had to have some drama...I opened up my garment bag to make sure that my veil was fixed because somehow at my last fitting I found it ripped. What the hell? When I took it out again, there was still a rip near the bottom and I was pissed. The girl who was working with me immediately went to fix it but its still really fragile. But at least its fixed...but for all the money I paid for that damn veil it should be impeccable.

Let me tell you how obsessed I was with my dress, I could barely lay it down in the car because I was afraid of it getting wrinked. But we got it home safely and its hanging up just waiting for me to wear it. In honor of my dress, I have found a few pictures of some beautiful wedding dresses that were with me during my journey. I absolutely love Jim Hjelm but he was out of my price range at the time of my dress shopping. I loved the first dress because of its subtle mermaid shape and that was the silhouette that I was going for. But my actual dress turned out to be an A-line but you can't help what the heart loves. The dress with the back view was the first dress I ever saw and I wanted that dress so badly. Unfortunately I wasn't as in love with the front of the dress.

On my to do list

• get programs printed
• buy unity candles and candle holder
• buy my blue garter
• buy flower petals for cake table
• buy bows for the church pew
• buy some gold sandals for my African traditional reception outfit
• buy some perfume with my Sephora gift card
• go to Victoria's Secret

I'm not sure if I will be back to post before Saturday but thank you all for sharing this journey to the alter with me and sharing all your encouragement and ideas. It is greatly appreciated. I hope to see you all on the flip side! Have an amazing day.

Stop and smell the roses

People have been telling during this whole rollercoaster ride that I need to enjoy every lit bit of this stress filled journey to the alter. I've listened and made genuine attempts but I have never handled stress well. But today, it really hit home for me.

I was on my way to my hair appointment and I was riding on the trolley. Like I usually do, when the trolley approached my desired stop, I stood up and moved right behind him so I was facing the front windshield. The light turns green and the trolley driver moves forward so that the only other passenger and myself can get off at the designated stop. As if in slow motion, he moves forward but the car in front of him does not and he slams into the back of the car. With the abrupt motion, my body jolts forward but I automatically hold onto the railing. Thank God we are all alright including the driver in front of us, but her car is messed up. As soon as he opens the doors and I see that the other driver is ok, I rush off to my destination because I do not want to be on that trolley for two hours answering questions. I immediately call my fiance and tell him what happened. He is on my way to work and not five minutes after we hang up, he calls back. While on interstate 95, he sees a car on the other side explode out of nowhere. For the beginning part of my hair appointment, my hair stylist and I talk about how short life is and how our hearts ache for that person and their family.

Obviously this wedding is not the culmination of my entire life; I had a life before the wedding and I will continue to live one as long as the Lord allows it. But today's events definitely made me stop and smell the mystical roses people are always referencing. I need to enjoy every single minute especially the crazy ones because they help me to grow and become the woman I am today and the woman I will be tomorrow.

Back to the subject of weddings; I saw pictures of a really beautiful wedding from Essence's Bridal Bliss. Essence covers many beautiful weddings and it is my hidden desire to be featured in one very soon. Lol. Their color scheme was purple and green, as evidenced by the cake. I love shoes and I especially love purples shoes so the next shot was a treat. And I thought the shot of them dancing was achingly romantic. Don't you agree?

5 days

There are five days left til the wedding and today is not a good day. I am trying so hard to not get stressed over every little thing but its a losing battle. I am a very organized person and I have to do things in a certain way. When things are not done in that certain way, I feel as if I am losing control. I don't like change but I can handle it. There are too many damn changes happening to this wedding and its driving me crazy!

We have rehearsal on Friday and many of the essential wedding party members will not be there for various reasons. This was all dumped on me within the last week so...I'm not a happy camper but I can't change people's schedules. Plus I had to deal with the church wedding planner and she informed me of so much more stuff that I was not aware of. We've had a few phone calls but why do I find out everything the week of my wedding?

I'm trying to get as much done so that I don't have to worry about everything on my wedding day. This is when it would be amazing to have a wedding planner...

And I know I can't control the timeline of the day but...its hard not to fuss over every since second when you can get charged by the church, the pastor, and the musicians. We have spent so much money on this wedding and I am not trying to give out a penny more! lol.

I have been on the phone all day and there is no end in sight...Sigh.

So in the middle of my long angst ridden post, I received a phone call from my future sister in law who has graciously extended an offer to oversee everything. I feel like a weight has been lifted because I've had friends offer to help for certain areas but not for everything. Thank God for family!

Ok...back to my phone calls with much higher spirits! Thanks for allowing me to rant.

Tasty cakes

One week left!! Its so freakin close...ahh...

Today the fiance and I did our cake tasting, too bad we were too sick to really enjoy any of the delicious cake. Last night we had Popeyes because we like to indulge ourselves and we woke up today feeling sooo bad...I literally took a small piece of each cake and dipped my fork in each frosting gingerly. I'm a big cake eater so you know that was hard for me. But I was so afraid of eating anything since my stomach was still...not well...lol. But the fiance and I make a great team; we picked our flavors and cake design super fast! Our cake is super simple; it is covered in ivory frosting with purple beading around each layer and purples roses scattered around the layers as well. It is also covered with curlicues on each layer; it is a very traditional looking cake and my fiance picked it out. I was so excited that he had an opinion on our wedding cake. Here are some cakes that I think are nice;

Then we met up with the limo company and booked our limo. Now we just have to work out the logistics of everything since we are only having one limo. Tis the woes of having your ceremony and reception at two different venues...

Tomorrow we meet with the reception manager and finalize all the other details...like discuss how we went over our 200 people reception...sigh...

Monday is shopping today for all the stuff I have been putting off...so we'll see about that.

On another note...

I have always wanted false eyelashes for my wedding day...my make up artist doesn't know how to do it...Any tips or suggestions?

Dreamweaver

Dream #1: I am in hot stuffy room surrounded by people from high school. You know the usuals; the jocks, the popular kids, the loners etc. My wedding is starting but I am still sitting in that hot stuffy room, dying. Then my dad comes to get me because we have to do the seating chart. And I am not dressed at all. I woke up like, what just happened?

Dream #2: I am hanging out with my bridal party and in a back room is a vaguely familiar girl working on floral bouquets made out of wood. We're watching television and munching on snacks when she finishes and hands me the finished bouquets. They're nice but...why is she doing my flowers and why are they in wood? I start to freak out because I realize I may have inadvertently asked this person to do my flowers when I am already under contract with someone else. I start crying because I don't know how to tell her that I can't use her flowers nor do I have the extra money to pay her. I wake up and remember that only one person is doing my flowers and they are not made of wood.

I decided to go the route of silk flowers, as they fell into my lap. But one definite benefit is that I can keep my bouquet long after the wedding. I can't wait to see them and show you the pictures!

Soo, I have been having a lot of wedding related dreams but those are the ones I can remember, lol. I feel like I should be on the show Bridezillas because my wedding timeline has been mirroring theirs. Today I have been put on limo duty. I know this sounds super late but I refuse to take blame. My fiance didn't want a limo but now he realizes that it would be less hectic if we just had one. He's a silly. I am not looking forward to the seating chart but I plan to start that today...

8 days...