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About Me
- Phillydizzi Bride to Be
- I am 25 year old getting ready for our nuptials on May 01, 2010. I am currently a graduate student majoring in Occupational Therapy. I love to write and I love weddings (well I used to). I thought it would be a great way to blend a few of my loves into a blog. Sit back and enjoy while I attempt to juggle planning a wedding on a budget while doing schoolwork. So let the madness begin!!
Showing posts with label weddings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label weddings. Show all posts
Friday, September 18, 2009
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Wedding Related Family Drama #1
I labeled this Wedding Related Family Drama #1 because knowing my family, there will be a 2, 3, 4, and 5...
So I went home last week to help out with my mom. She had recently had surgery for a shunt revision in her head and she was not allowed to do anything at home. I went home to be helpful but not really sure how helpful I was. While there, my dad wanted to talk to me about my wedding plans and perhaps veto any of my ideas. I went into the conversation sure that he was going to berate me, so I was on defensive mode. It was a pretty pleasant conversation surprisingly, as this never happens when he is included in the conversation. We talked about the budget, the reception venue, the church, caters, and etc. Then he dropped the D-bomb. Dancing. "I don't want to participate in any dancing. So if there will be any dancing, please let me know now." he said in a firm voice.
I shrugged my shoulders and fingered my parent's comforter. "There's gonna be dancing."
He shrugged as well and said, "Then I will be there at the ceremony but after that I am going home."
Really?! Seriously!? I'm not gonna lie, my first reaction was whatever, I wasn't going to dance with you anyway. But then my best friend pointed out to me later that it would look odd if my father was not present for the parental introduction or pictures. Then she and I got into some verbal disagreement about my father and how I should handle it. But I digress. My fiance is Nigerian and dancing is big in all of their events. I just love to dance. I was never allowed to dance when I was younger and I refuse to let other people dictate my wedding! I never realized how much my dad did not like dancing, as he has sat through countless weddings with dancing during the reception. I don't understand why he can't sit through mine. I love my dad but we have too much of this control stuff in our history. But the good thing about him is that he'll say one thing now and then backtrack later. So I'll just address the issue at a later date and see what changes. My bff did bring up the compromise that maybe he could sit through dinner and then the dancing could commence after that. I'm not as hardheaded as some may believe me to be, I can compromise on certain things. We'll see.
Then we started talking about how many people were invited. Apparently 140 is not enough people for them. The venue can actually hold 200 but my fiance and I were trying to trick them into inviting less people. So far, not working. My dad feels strongly that he should have 100 guests, but he keeps forgetting that my friends are also part of this 100. My head hurts.
Today my mom called and asked if I could change the reception venue. I was pissed and then my phone signal faded. Stupid MetroPCS. Lol. I had to unleash my inner Bridezilla and calmly tell her that no, I would not be changing my venue, it is what I want. The only way they will listen to me is if I act like that, otherwise they will try to run all over me.
I don't know what posesessed us to plan a wedding. I start my second rotation soon and will have to start studying for my boards right before the wedding. We should have ran to city hall and ignored any outbursts. 8 months to go and I'm not sure I will make it.
Any wedding related family drama to share and how did it get resolved?
So I went home last week to help out with my mom. She had recently had surgery for a shunt revision in her head and she was not allowed to do anything at home. I went home to be helpful but not really sure how helpful I was. While there, my dad wanted to talk to me about my wedding plans and perhaps veto any of my ideas. I went into the conversation sure that he was going to berate me, so I was on defensive mode. It was a pretty pleasant conversation surprisingly, as this never happens when he is included in the conversation. We talked about the budget, the reception venue, the church, caters, and etc. Then he dropped the D-bomb. Dancing. "I don't want to participate in any dancing. So if there will be any dancing, please let me know now." he said in a firm voice.
I shrugged my shoulders and fingered my parent's comforter. "There's gonna be dancing."
He shrugged as well and said, "Then I will be there at the ceremony but after that I am going home."
Really?! Seriously!? I'm not gonna lie, my first reaction was whatever, I wasn't going to dance with you anyway. But then my best friend pointed out to me later that it would look odd if my father was not present for the parental introduction or pictures. Then she and I got into some verbal disagreement about my father and how I should handle it. But I digress. My fiance is Nigerian and dancing is big in all of their events. I just love to dance. I was never allowed to dance when I was younger and I refuse to let other people dictate my wedding! I never realized how much my dad did not like dancing, as he has sat through countless weddings with dancing during the reception. I don't understand why he can't sit through mine. I love my dad but we have too much of this control stuff in our history. But the good thing about him is that he'll say one thing now and then backtrack later. So I'll just address the issue at a later date and see what changes. My bff did bring up the compromise that maybe he could sit through dinner and then the dancing could commence after that. I'm not as hardheaded as some may believe me to be, I can compromise on certain things. We'll see.
Then we started talking about how many people were invited. Apparently 140 is not enough people for them. The venue can actually hold 200 but my fiance and I were trying to trick them into inviting less people. So far, not working. My dad feels strongly that he should have 100 guests, but he keeps forgetting that my friends are also part of this 100. My head hurts.
Today my mom called and asked if I could change the reception venue. I was pissed and then my phone signal faded. Stupid MetroPCS. Lol. I had to unleash my inner Bridezilla and calmly tell her that no, I would not be changing my venue, it is what I want. The only way they will listen to me is if I act like that, otherwise they will try to run all over me.
I don't know what posesessed us to plan a wedding. I start my second rotation soon and will have to start studying for my boards right before the wedding. We should have ran to city hall and ignored any outbursts. 8 months to go and I'm not sure I will make it.
Any wedding related family drama to share and how did it get resolved?
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Not Easily Broken
This evening the hubster and I watched this movie called Not Easily Broken by T.D. Jakes who happens to be a very famous pastor. Before some of you sigh and navigate away from this page, hear me out. Its not just another "Christian" movie. Yes it has some aspect of religion in it, but the main focus is around love and marriage; how to get and keep it. I know we all have our religious differences but on the subject of love, we speak the same language.
Seriously, seriously, seriously, I implore you to watch this movie if you are married, trying to get married, or just in a relationship. If I were teaching a premarital course or marriage counseling, I would highly recommend this movie. It touches upon topics that are highly important to building a foundation for any relationship.
A few important themes that the movie addresses are:
1. Keeping your business your business. Nobody else should be in your relationship but the two of you
2. Communication is key. No further comment is necessary for this one
3. Respect one another.
4. Support one another
Thats all because I'm not a relationship counselor. I'm still learning this stuff.
I know some of you may be wondering why I am writing about this and I'm sure a few of you know why. We spend so much time, energy, and money planning our weddings. The wedding lasts for a couple of hours that ends quickly. All we really have left are the pictures and memories. I think that we need to spend more effort into preparing for the marriage, which can last for years. When all the glitz and glamour is gone, the wedding dress is tucked away, what is left?
Think about it.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Shoes Shoes Shoes
I love shoes, especially high heels although I am already relatively tall (5'7). One of my first wedding related searches had to do with shoes. I don't want to wear white shoes because I had to buy a pair for a wedding I walked in last summer and I hardly ever wear white shoes. I want to buy new shoes that I can also wear AFTER the wedding.
I've heard great things about Cole Haan shoes. Supposedly they do not hurt like so many other pairs of heels. I plan on dancing the night away and I don't want to go barefoot or change into flip flops although this may happen. His Cole Haan Nike Air high heel shoe collection is said to be a godsend! He teamed up with Nike and placed Nike zoom air bags in the heel and ball. The result is a shoe that feels almost as great as wearing your favorite sneakers except they look better! Ladies, you do not have to sacrifice your heel fetish for comfort anymore. Now you can have both because some of the shoes are cute and are still 3'-4' in height!
They also have a new bridal collection.
Like many women I think, I also have this dream fantasy of one day owning a pair of Manolo Blahniks. I just love them and I think they would look amazing with my dress.
Here is the pair that I would buy if it fit in my budget. They are elegant, timeless, and can be worn over and over after the wedding.
So anyways I found another interesting way to get new shoes. Not sure how good it is but it seems legit. I'm not brave enough to try it but maybe someone out there is. Reality TV star Kim Kardashian founded a new shoe company called ShoeDazzle. Described as the "premier shoe society", fashionistas everywhere can join this network for $39.00 a pair/or month. After filling out a survey detailing your personal taste, renowned stylists personally pick out 5 pairs of shoes. The shoes are delivered right to your home and you have the option of picking one pair. Every month, new shoes are sent to your home for your personal enjoyment! The shoes are pretty cute and the stylists have dealt with a few celebs that you are familiar with such as: Kimberly Locke, Audrina Partridge, Sophia Bush, Paris Hilton, Kanye West, Carmen Electra, just to name a few Check out the shoes for your personal enjoyment.
Other more budget friendly way to get new shoes are: zappos.com and gojane.com,
Craiglist and Ebay are other options. I see tons of people selling their wedding dresses and shoes on craigslist. I have myself purchased a new pair of BCBG pumps for a very low price, so its worth looking into.
I have my heart set on the Manolo Blahniks so I guess I have a lot more shoe shopping to do.
Happy shoe shopping!
I've heard great things about Cole Haan shoes. Supposedly they do not hurt like so many other pairs of heels. I plan on dancing the night away and I don't want to go barefoot or change into flip flops although this may happen. His Cole Haan Nike Air high heel shoe collection is said to be a godsend! He teamed up with Nike and placed Nike zoom air bags in the heel and ball. The result is a shoe that feels almost as great as wearing your favorite sneakers except they look better! Ladies, you do not have to sacrifice your heel fetish for comfort anymore. Now you can have both because some of the shoes are cute and are still 3'-4' in height!
They also have a new bridal collection.
Like many women I think, I also have this dream fantasy of one day owning a pair of Manolo Blahniks. I just love them and I think they would look amazing with my dress.
Here is the pair that I would buy if it fit in my budget. They are elegant, timeless, and can be worn over and over after the wedding.
So anyways I found another interesting way to get new shoes. Not sure how good it is but it seems legit. I'm not brave enough to try it but maybe someone out there is. Reality TV star Kim Kardashian founded a new shoe company called ShoeDazzle. Described as the "premier shoe society", fashionistas everywhere can join this network for $39.00 a pair/or month. After filling out a survey detailing your personal taste, renowned stylists personally pick out 5 pairs of shoes. The shoes are delivered right to your home and you have the option of picking one pair. Every month, new shoes are sent to your home for your personal enjoyment! The shoes are pretty cute and the stylists have dealt with a few celebs that you are familiar with such as: Kimberly Locke, Audrina Partridge, Sophia Bush, Paris Hilton, Kanye West, Carmen Electra, just to name a few Check out the shoes for your personal enjoyment.
Other more budget friendly way to get new shoes are: zappos.com and gojane.com,
Craiglist and Ebay are other options. I see tons of people selling their wedding dresses and shoes on craigslist. I have myself purchased a new pair of BCBG pumps for a very low price, so its worth looking into.
I have my heart set on the Manolo Blahniks so I guess I have a lot more shoe shopping to do.
Happy shoe shopping!
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
A Nice Surprise!!
FI had beeen hinting all week about taking me somewhere. He claims I mentioned it in a recent conversation on the way to work and have no recollection at all. In fact that entire car ride has been erased from my memory. That has been happening to me alot lately. Anyways today we embarked on this mystery trip and he kept spitting out all these potential ideas but none were true. We finally get downtown and the psycho takes me to a bridal boutique. I was surprised because I did not see that coming at all. I mean, I talk about the wedding constantly, it comes to me as naturally as breathing these days. So we go in and I'm thinking isnt the husband not supposed to be at the wedding dress fitting? But I dont care. The type of relationship we have don't be surprised if he knows what my dress looks like prior to the big day. lol.
Either way, I plan on looking fantabulous and knock his socks off, so who care if he sees the dress? We made an appointment b/c you apparantly can't just walk in. We never go downtown together in any case so it was nice to be around citified folk.
As you may or may not know, my birthday is coming up in approximately two weeks. I saw Bebe and immediately had to go in. I was not sure how receptive FI would be to this, but he has his computer book and was in an agreeable mood. I have been scouring their website for about two weeks now, and so I recognized all the dresses. I was just surprised that there were still some left.
First of all, Bebe is my new favorite store. It was a good try on day, I didn't hate my body. PLus it was so fun to have FI there to give me his honest opinion on the dresses. The first dress I tried on was the one we both liked a lot. Of course its black, actually all the dresses but one were. And I also got this hot shirt, so I'm so excited...I have not gone shopping in months, ok? MOnths! Ok so my sneaker purchase over the weekend does not count. lol.
The dress. I have been thinking about this dress for a ridiculously long amount of time. I am obsessed with my birthday. Every year, I want to have soo much fun. In high school, we started a tradition where we would take each other out and go to the movies. I love that, but now I dont go home as much. Last year I spent my birthday in NY sitting on the couch. I was supposed to go back to Philly and hang with school friends but my parents convinced me to stay home. I refuse to have that happen again. I got this cute black dress with short sleeves and a short flouncy skirt(to show off my legs). I was going for a look that is not so obviously me. I still stayed in the black family but these things take time.
All in all it was a great day. I have never gotten a new dress for my birthday, though I always want one. Already 25 is looking a lot better.
So I'm excited about trying on my wedding dresses on Monday. Its my first real forray into the engaged girl world. It will be nice to see what dresses look good and how much more work I have left to do in teh gym, lol. Plus I have been calling reception venues. I am in full wedding mode these days. I just wish it was tomorrow!!! I dont know how long I can wait...
Either way, I plan on looking fantabulous and knock his socks off, so who care if he sees the dress? We made an appointment b/c you apparantly can't just walk in. We never go downtown together in any case so it was nice to be around citified folk.
As you may or may not know, my birthday is coming up in approximately two weeks. I saw Bebe and immediately had to go in. I was not sure how receptive FI would be to this, but he has his computer book and was in an agreeable mood. I have been scouring their website for about two weeks now, and so I recognized all the dresses. I was just surprised that there were still some left.
First of all, Bebe is my new favorite store. It was a good try on day, I didn't hate my body. PLus it was so fun to have FI there to give me his honest opinion on the dresses. The first dress I tried on was the one we both liked a lot. Of course its black, actually all the dresses but one were. And I also got this hot shirt, so I'm so excited...I have not gone shopping in months, ok? MOnths! Ok so my sneaker purchase over the weekend does not count. lol.
The dress. I have been thinking about this dress for a ridiculously long amount of time. I am obsessed with my birthday. Every year, I want to have soo much fun. In high school, we started a tradition where we would take each other out and go to the movies. I love that, but now I dont go home as much. Last year I spent my birthday in NY sitting on the couch. I was supposed to go back to Philly and hang with school friends but my parents convinced me to stay home. I refuse to have that happen again. I got this cute black dress with short sleeves and a short flouncy skirt(to show off my legs). I was going for a look that is not so obviously me. I still stayed in the black family but these things take time.
All in all it was a great day. I have never gotten a new dress for my birthday, though I always want one. Already 25 is looking a lot better.
So I'm excited about trying on my wedding dresses on Monday. Its my first real forray into the engaged girl world. It will be nice to see what dresses look good and how much more work I have left to do in teh gym, lol. Plus I have been calling reception venues. I am in full wedding mode these days. I just wish it was tomorrow!!! I dont know how long I can wait...
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