Not Easily Broken

This evening the hubster and I watched this movie called Not Easily Broken by T.D. Jakes who happens to be a very famous pastor. Before some of you sigh and navigate away from this page, hear me out. Its not just another "Christian" movie. Yes it has some aspect of religion in it, but the main focus is around love and marriage; how to get and keep it. I know we all have our religious differences but on the subject of love, we speak the same language.

Seriously, seriously, seriously, I implore you to watch this movie if you are married, trying to get married, or just in a relationship. If I were teaching a premarital course or marriage counseling, I would highly recommend this movie. It touches upon topics that are highly important to building a foundation for any relationship.

A few important themes that the movie addresses are:

1. Keeping your business your business. Nobody else should be in your relationship but the two of you

2. Communication is key. No further comment is necessary for this one

3. Respect one another.

4. Support one another

Thats all because I'm not a relationship counselor. I'm still learning this stuff.

I know some of you may be wondering why I am writing about this and I'm sure a few of you know why. We spend so much time, energy, and money planning our weddings. The wedding lasts for a couple of hours that ends quickly. All we really have left are the pictures and memories. I think that we need to spend more effort into preparing for the marriage, which can last for years. When all the glitz and glamour is gone, the wedding dress is tucked away, what is left?

Think about it.

My inner Erin Brocovitch...

Ok So I used to think that I was this big movie buff. I always say that I love movies but in actuality, I have seen like 1% of the world's movies...I support African American films and all romantic comedies but my fiance always looks at me with disgust when he finds out what kinds of movies i have never seen (I'm not going to list them for fear of rejection and judgment). Neways, we were watching Erin Brocovitch last night when I was supposed be doing reseach homework. I've heard of said movie but never saw it. I am so glad that I finally saw it. My favorite line in the whole movie is : Bite my ass, Krispie Kremes!!"

She became my shero last night. She didn't care what anyone thought of her and always said what was on her mind. She also wore these crazy outfits that made all the females at her job hate her but that was mainly because they were all determined as my fiance would say. Half of the things that came out of her mouth were ridiculous but she always had a valid point. We live in a society where its so easy to care what others think. I have finally realized that people think about you less than you think, EXCEPT for your haters. They think about you all the time. I actually don't know if I have any haters right now, nor do I care but its kind of an ego booster to think that someone is always worrying about what you do. Ok, back to what I was saying, I have always been a very nice girl. I mind my manners and the whole nine. And sometimes I am so much nicer than I should be to people. If you knew what thoughts I had in my head, you would be completely and utterly shocked. Its so funny because my fiance (who will be refered as FI from here on out), my FI is like the male version of Erin Brocovitch who was played by Julia Roberts by the way. She is soo hot, she looked really good. Anyways, he is like her and he gets annoyed when I try to cage my inner Erin Brocovich. So my goal is not to necessarily become a bitch but to be more open with my feelings.

Anyways on the wedding front, I am following the DC Nearlyweds blog (its pretty good, you should read it sometime, http://www.dcnearlyweds.com/2008/11/i-like-your-shoooeeessss.html) and she was talking about her wedding shoes. Someone mentioned this shoe website http://www.6pm.com. I glanced at it briefly. It has some big names on there and on sale. Check it out. I might buy some for the upcoming holidays...or send FI my wish list...You should also look at http://www.edressme.com. They have some cute dresses for every occasion and they have designers like Nicole Miller and BCBG...blah blah blah...I am on my clothing and shoe kick right now aren't I? Just go with it.
Tout a l'heure!!!